What Do You Choose?

This morning my daughter and I weren’t feeling so well. I barely had any strength due to the surgery I had this Tuesday, and my daughter’s hands and legs hurt – she had little strength to move them due to her medication. So, she stayed home with me today. We both cuddled and had talks. I always tell her that I understand what she is going through. This time, though, I asked her how she would feel if mommy had surgery. She said, “I would be proud of you because I would know how brave you were.” In a way she felt happy because she realized that she wasn’t the only one. I told her that it is normal for unpleasant things to happen and assured her that above all we are still happy and are able to move on. That happiness is always there for us to have. Art activities are our favorite and we might watch a movie and popcorn later. It is a cozy and beautiful day today with the rain and all!

It is important to communicate with your child; be present with your child. It is important for them to be open to expressing their emotions and helping them understand why they feel the way they do, to understand that they have a choice, and the ways they can choose to handle it. You don’t have to have a long lecture about it, but subtle, small, interactive steps that are generated by spreading them out throughout the day. Think of them as little hints of assurance!

It is also important, even while going through a difficult time, to make the best of it. How do you do it, though, through all that pain? The answer is, you break through those walls that are keeping you in the same state you do not want to be in! Sure, it is easier said than done, but when negative situations persist in your life each time there is room for change. That change consists of having a new perception of how it is you choose to deal with situations. How do you choose to deal with your situation? Will you make the choice to break through that wall in an instant and get your ducks in a row or will you close your store? Yes, the numbers are very clear when you are closing a real store, but are you aware of what the consequences are to closing the store of your soul?

As I always like to say, it is not what happens to you or the negative reactions you may receive, but the way you decide to deal with it. This decision will reflect the scale of strength of the amount of willpower, hope, and love you choose to have at that moment.

This is one of the many ways I have empowered myself – amidst all of my happenings I chose to continue to inspire you! This is the impact I choose to make for my kids. This is the scale of the level of my willpower, hope and love – I choose to celebrate the moment! What is yours?

From my heart to yours,

Vlora Bekteshi